9-year-old's gender questioned in 'gobsmacking' track-and-field incident, family says

WARNING: This story contains disturbingdetails ofverbal abuse in relation to transphobia.

A B.C. family has garnered sympathy online and international media attention after sharing what they described as an incident in which a man questioned their nine-year-old daughter's gender during a sporting event.

They say theincident occurred during a track-and-field meet at the Apple Bowl Stadium in Kelowna, B.C., organized by the Central Okanagan School District for elementary school students.

Heidi Starr said her daughter, who is cisgender and has a pixie cut, was preparing for a shot put contest when a man approached a parent volunteer, pointed to the nine-year-old and, mistaking her for a boy, questioned why a boy was participating in a girls' event.

CBC News has agreed to keep the girl's identity confidential to protect her safety and well-being.

"As my daughter was preparing to get up and throw, a man came out of the crowd, stepped forward and walked towards a parent volunteer and said, 'This is a girls' event why are boys throwing?'" Starr told CBC News.

Starr said she then intervened and correctedthe man, whose granddaughter was also participating in the event.

"Then the gentleman started insisting that I provide documentation in the form of a certificate proving that my daughter was born a girl," Starrsaid.

Starr addedthat the man's wife was also shouting at Starr and Starr's ex-wife, saying they were "genital mutilators and groomers."

"It was gobsmacking," Starrsaid.

"I said 'Are you asking for a certificate proving that my daughter was born with a vagina [and] you need a proof of her genitals?'"

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A B.C. family has garnered sympathy online and international media attention after sharing what they described as an incident in which a man questioned their nine-year-old daughter's gender during a sporting event. They say the incident occurred during a track-and-field meet at the Apple Bowl Stadium in Kelowna, B.C., organized by the Central Okanagan School District for elementary school students.

Starr saidseveral parents asked the man to leave, but he refused and left with his wife and granddaughter at the end of the event.

In a statement toKelowna news outletCastaneton Tuesday,the man denied yelling at the Starrs and their daughter.

He said he asked the parent volunteer whether the event was co-educational, but hadn't asked whether the girl was transgender.

"As I was walking away from the official, a woman [said], 'I'm her mother,' and [she was] yelling, and swearing at me and offering if I want to see [the girl] naked, or if I want to see her genitals," he said in the statement.

"I said, 'No, the certificate is OK.' That's all I said. I never pointed to another girl and said she's obviously trans. That is a big lie as well."

Starr shared the incident on Facebook, which has garnered sympathy for her daughter and international media attention, as well as criticism of the man's behaviour.

In a tweet, B.C. Premier David Eby described the alleged incident astransphobic:"This is awful this kind of hate is not acceptable or welcome in British Columbia."

CBC News has contacted the manfor comment but has yet toreceive a reply.

Starr said her daughter embraces inclusivity towardindividuals of diverse gender identities, having been raised by lesbian parents and having transgender teachers and coaches,but that the incident also deeply affected the girl.

"She was physically vibrating. She was sobbing. She was in and out of tears all day till bedtime that day," Starr said.

Kari Starr, Heidi's ex-wife, said the incident occurred a week before the girl's 10th birthday.

"I think she's risen above it and [become] stronger, butnot to say it's not going to affect her in some capacity forever."

In a statement, School District 23 superintendent Kevin Kaardal said the district is taking action to prohibit the couple from entering its schools andattending its events in the future.

"We expect that adults who are invited to celebrate student success govern their behaviour and conduct themselves with the civility and respect we expect from students."

Kardaal told CBC News one of the couple apologized to the school principal. He described their behaviour at the event as confrontational.

"The couple, particularly the gentleman, were belligerent and they were asked to stop what they were doing and leave the area, and they were reluctant to do so.

"I understand I was not on the call and our principal listened, [but that] certainly doesn't condone the behaviour and doesn't necessarily believe that the person's version of events reflects what we've discovered in our investigation," he said.

Heidi Starr said she has lodged a complaint against the man withKelowna RCMP, who have confirmed their investigation into the matter.