Displaced Ukrainians mark sombre Orthodox Christmas far from war-torn home

For Ukrainians spending their first holidayseasonaway from home, this year's Orthodox Christmas celebrations have been muted, focused on prayers that the war in their homeland comes to an end.

Olga Melnyk arrived in Brandon, Man. with her husband Vasiland children Dentil, 12, and Victoria, 8, in August from western Ukraine. This year marked their firstholiday season outside of Ukraine, she said, and it was a strange and difficult time.

She says marking the holidays in Canada has beenbittersweet.

"It's a family holiday in Ukraine. We celebrate with family and close friends, butall Ukrainians here [are] our family now," Melnyk said. "We don't feel this holidaybecause of war.We try to be positive and try to be happy here. It's our new life."

On Friday,Melnyk cooked a seven-course meal to celebrate Orthodox Christmas and hosted a gathering with other Ukrainians Saturday in the southwest Manitoban community. Her family's apartment was decorated with festive ornaments to try and capture a special holiday feeling for her kids.

Melnykand her husband's parents are still in Ukraine, as are many of their friends.

This Christmas is very sad because she has friends who have been killed in the war, she said, including a good friend three days ago. Melnyk said all Ukrainians share theheartbreak of having loved ones die in the war, making the 2023 Orthodox Christmas hard to celebrate.

"We pray for victory and it was our wish by 40 million people. It's our victory."

Holiday feelings are not possible during the war

Natalia Kohanovaand her teenage sonMykhailoKohanovarrived in Manitoba's second biggest city, in mid-June escaping the Russian invasion that devastated their home city of Irpin.

Their new home has been modestly decorated with Christmas items all donated by the community and friends.

"All decorations on our Christmas tree it's all like presents from Canadians. They think about us, they support us and every time think about what we need," Kohanovasaid. "It's so beautiful for us."

They share the home with three other displaced Ukrainians 19-year-old studentKateryna Sofishchenko,Hanna Prykhodko and her eight-year-old son Illia.

In Ukraine, Kohanovaand her familyusually celebrate both Christmas in December and Orthodox Christmas on Jan. 7. But this year they say it is hard to find reasons to feel festive.

"We cannot ... celebrate because my parents and [Mykhailo's]grandma and grandfather right now are in Ukraine," she said.

"We think about our family," she said. "I know that [my] parents are shot at every day, and we work so as not to think about it."

She's spent her holidays thinking about the war, prayingand hoping that the people she loves stay safe.

Sofishchenko, who hails from Kyiv, came to Brandonin August, as late in the year as possible because she wanted to be with her parents, who stayed behind. She's now attendingAssiniboine Community College.

Her family doesn't celebrate Orthodox Christmas or Christmas, she said, but always hostsa big feast celebrating New Year's with her grandparents; a highlight of whichwould be a special traditional dish, kutia, typically served at the start of Orthodox Christmas's 12-course meals.

Sofishchenko and her housemates had a modest holiday celebration with a smaller meal. They say it can be difficult to plan because it's tiring adjusting to life in Canada, working and school.

She agrees it would feel strange getting too festive because of the challenging year and ongoing war.

"I'm not really in the Christmas spirit," Sofishchenko said. "When I think about home it's quite sad."

Not being at home for the holidays has been a lonely experience.

Before coming to Canada Sofishchenko spentmonths in Denmark and Germany, and at times, home has felt like a distant memory. She says, even if she was home, she knows the holiday spirit would be dimmed because of ongoing Russian aggression.

"It would still be pretty stressful, you know all this rocket launches and stuff like that," she said.

"It's not homehome, because home is a place where you're safe."

The Ukrainian-Canadian Congress estimates around 11,000 Ukrainians have settled in Manitobaunder emergency travel measuresintroduced last year.More than 70 have settled in Brandon with help from the Tryzub, a branch of the congress that mainly helps new arrivals.

KohanovapraisesTryzub for its community support and the many events and fundraisers it has held to benefit Ukraine. She says those events are important because Tryzub is helping bring the community together and ensuring people feel connected even though they are outside Ukraine.

"It's great people because they understand what we're feeling and so much help to us," Kohanovasaid.