Loosening of rules at nursing homes too late, say families

Long-term care homes are allowing residents to do some things they haven't been able to for over a year, but some say the lifting of heavy restrictions comes too late.

"Honestly, there are a lot of residents in there that probably would have benefited from dying of COVID-19 than going through the hell of isolation and neglect," said Lisa Nye, a partner-in-care for her 74-year-old father.

The new directive announced by the Ontario governmentTuesday means homes can resumecommunal dining, indoor social events and gatherings. It also allows residents and caregivers who are fully immunized to have physical contact, such ashugging or holding hands.

But Nyehas watched in agonyas her father's long-term care home, Extendicare Medex in Ottawa,experienced outbreak after outbreak. Residents isolated in their rooms for months at a time, even after being fully vaccinated.

She said he's spent less than a week outside of his room since January.

"[Residents are] confined to their rooms, [a] three by three space for weeks, if not ... months at a time, meals on their laps, no access to the outdoors, no access to fresh air," she said.

To even be able to see her father as a partner-in-care once a week, Nye needs to be tested for COVID-19 every four days. She now hopes to be able to move her father out of the care home, which is currently experiencing another outbreak.

'We've lost that time,' says daughter

ForBetty Yakimenko and her family, the experience is hauntingly similar.

"It's been horrendous," saidYakimenko, whose mother with dementia lives at the Madonna Care Community in Orlans. "She's been in her room. There's been a few times where they've opened up but for the most time, they just go from one outbreak to another."

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Yakimenko blames the restrictionsfor erasing what wasleft of her mother's memory.

"It's worrisome because we've lost that time. We've lost that little bit of time with her where she now doesn't know who we are at all," Yakimenko said, adding that family members weren't able to see her mother for much of the pandemic.

"Before [the] pandemic, she knew my dad's voice. She knewhe was important to her .... now she doesn't really know him at all, which is upsetting to him. They've been married for 62years."

More changes promised

In a statement to CBC, the Ministry of Long-Term Care later clarified that if outbreaks are isolated to a particular area of a home, then "indoor group activities can continue in non-affected areas."

"In the case of a confirmed outbreak that has been declared for the whole facility, all non-essential indoor group activities must be suspended throughout the home until the local public health unit directs otherwise."

The provincial government has promised even more changes once the current stay-at-home order lifts, though it has not yet specified what those changes will be.

Yakimenko said "it's about time" residents are given more freedoms, but those changes came too late for her mother.

She's hopefulresidents will be allowed more visitors beyond partners-in-care once the stay-at-home order lifts.

Nye remains sceptical of the announcement, since it follows a scathingreport from the province'sLong-Term Care COVID-19 Commission.

"I feel it's an exercise in smoke and mirrors," said Nye.