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Posted: 2021-03-02T01:22:35Z | Updated: 2021-03-03T15:35:57Z

Like many parents , Ontario mom Carly Stasko gets stressed out by the never-ending headache that is virtual schooling .

The daytime is always a juggle between helping them out, making lunch, and keeping them motivated, Stasko told HuffPost Canada.

So when her childrens screens are put away, Stasko has turned to a daily routine that has turned her into a TikTok star : Dancing on a frozen lake, in the middle of Canadian winter.

The 43-year-old workshop facilitator, freelancer, and self-titled Imagitator shakes out her frustrations on Lake Nipissing, a daily routine shes had since her family moved four hours north of their Toronto home last summer.

I started dancing because its so beautiful outside and theres nobody around, she said.

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Today I was dancing on an actual cloud! #dancingoutside #letsvibe

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Most afternoons, Stasko is alone while grooving to her favourite songs; an act that gave her strength, as she managed a cancer diagnosis in her twenties before she had kids and the isolation she felt then. She also draws upon the open floor flow she learned from a body-positive dance instructor in Toronto.

But last week, a local ice fisherman caught sight of Stasko from afar and decided to film her jam session on his phone.

Anyone lose a drunk wife? he joked in a caption, alongside the video of her dance, along with some dubious commentary about COVID-19 vaccine side-effects , in a private Facebook group for ice fishers.

Eventually, word got back to Stasko that she was famous among local fishers, which she took in stride. She called the comments about her hilarious and a bit embarrassing in a Facebook post, and went on to make a TikTok, reflecting on the situation.

Even though some people think I look crazy, its actually helping me to feel sane, she said in the video, which has over 85,000 views.

Stasko also empathized with the joke-makers: But everyone needs a laugh these days, so I dont mind!

Stasko said some fishers gave her the thumbs-up and wrote dance like no ones watching! on the original post.

The Ontario mom reached out to the group late last week to let them know who she was.

I said something like, Its not the vaccine which Id love to get as soon as I can you can blame pandemic stress and virtual schooling, she explained to them. Thats one of the only things that seems to help me, I get out and I dance outside.

I decided a little while back to just not to give a hoot about what people say. And I might look kooky, but Im happy. I wish you guys happiness, too. And I hope you have good luck with your catches.

I decided a little while back to just not to give a hoot about what people say. And I might look kooky, but Im happy.

- Carly Stasko

Since then, the local fishers have been supportive of Stasko. The guy who originally posted it got back in touch with me and said, You know, you actually made my day when I saw that, she noted. And one fisher offered her family free ice fishing rods to try out. Theyve invited me in a bit and I appreciate it, said Stasko.

Stasko, whose activism has been covered by writer Naomi Klein , feels that as an immunocompromised person with a strict social bubble right now, sharing her dances can be a form of both personal and collective healing.

At a time when everyones mental health is under strain, taking care of ourselves and each other in healing ways might be my most impactful kind of activism I have access to right now especially in the middle of everything else like virtual school and making life work in a pandemic.

How TikTok is her familys sketchbook

Stasko and her family use the social media platform TikTok like their sketchbook, where they can share their everyday creativity.

Oh, lets look at all the mushrooms growing in the woods. And another one, itll be, Lets film making a Black Lives Matter poster, she said.

Her kids, Forest Hart, 10, and River Sage, six, also love to break down outside.

They try to start their mornings together, slowly waking up in front of the fireplace.

Its very different than how our life used to be, Stasko said. We used to have to eat, get dressed, pack lunches, then leave to go to school.