People often think rapists are sketchy guys popping out from dark alleys to violently force themselves upon victims. Statistics tell a different story. More often, its someone the victim knows very well a coworker, a boyfriend, a husband, a friend taking advantage of someone in a vulnerable moment.

During an interview on Oprahs SuperSoul Conversations podcast, actress and comedian Amy Schumer , who made her name as a deeply personal stand-up comic, revealed to Oprah Winfrey that a former boyfriend sexually assaulted her in her sleep. It was Schumers first time having sex, and for years she wasnt quite sure how to classify the experience.

Initially, Schumer said, she used the term grape (short for gray-area rape) on stage as a way to discuss a troubling, all-too-common phenomenon. When that happens to you, you say, OK, well, this isnt someone I want to see rotting in a jail cell, but what he did to me was wrong, and I didnt consent, Schumer told Oprah. For me, I lost my virginity while I was asleep, and thats not OK.

Oprah pointed out that victims often feel conflicted after being assaulted by someone they care about because the perpetrator seems to show remorse, in turn making the victim feel bad. He was my boyfriend. I loved him. I had to comfort him, Schumer explained. However, she added, I also felt really angry.

The anger never went away, but Schumer said she didnt feel comfortable expressing it. As women, were really trained not to get angry because that makes people dismiss you right away, Schumer said. Theres sort of no place for that anger.

Schumer no longer feels the term gray-area accurately describes her then-boyfriends betrayal. I feel like I lost my virginity through rape, Schumer said. I didnt consent. We hadnt discussed it. We werent there in our relationship.

To hear the entire conversation, head over to Oprahs SuperSoul Conversations on iTunes . More clips are also available on OWNs YouTube channel .