Body confidence knowing that your body is fine just as it is, in its current state (and that, hell, youre pretty damn sexy, too) has to come from within. Learning to love your body is an inside game; you cant get there through outside validation alone.

But lets be real: Having a partner who raves about your body often and effusively cant hurt! With that in mind and to encourage people to get more complimentary during sex we asked 12 women to share the greatest compliment a man or woman has given them, especially in bed. Heres what they had to say.

You have the most beautiful legs Ive ever seen.

When I was in my teens and 20s, I had some issues with negative body image, and was especially unhappy with my thighs. Then, in my late 20s, I dated this very romantic salsa instructor. He would always say, You have the most beautiful legs Ive ever seen. I could tell he was serious by the way he looked at them and couldnt keep his hands off of them. That pretty much cured my negative feelings about my thighs I love them now. Celeste Hirschman, co-founder of the Somatica Institute of Sex and Relationship Coaching

Youre like my Jessica Rabbit.

Ive always been a full-figured woman with a whole lot of extra curves, way before the Kardashians made the now-so-popular hourglass look more socially acceptable in current fashion. My big booty had always made me feel so self-conscious. I used to deny the positive power of my very womanly shape. However, one year during Halloween season, my man and I were standing in the grocery store line discussing what to wear to a friends costume party. Without really thinking, he half turned to me, cupping one of my butt cheeks with his left hand while paying the bill with his right, as he simply said, Just throw on that red evening gown and youre my Jessica Rabbit. Done. The smile on my lips was as big as the shock on the persons face standing directly behind us. A lot of women struggle with their curves but because he called me his Jessica I am the proudest cartoon sexpot alive. Hudsy Hawn , kink coach, entertainer and writer

You make the hottest sex face.

A partner of mine used to tell me I made the sexiest faces in bed. That helped me feel a lot less self-conscious not only about my looks but also about taking up the time and attention to receive pleasure without giving anything in return. His explicit admiration of my sex faces let me know he was gaining something just by pleasing me. Suzannah Weiss , writer

You wear a wicked grin.

The first thing my (now) husband ever said to me was, You wear a wicked grin. English isnt his native language, so at first I thought it was a type of ESL vernacular, and maybe it was. But it worked. Now, more than a decade later, I still remember it. Its so much more powerful than the common, You have a nice smile. Words matter, every one of them. Jessica Mehta , author