The five love languages are quality time , physical touch , words of affirmation , acts of service and receiving gifts. While the first four are pretty straightforward (heres a recap if youre not familiar) , its the last one that gets a bad rap.

In his long-standing New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, author Gary Chapman a Baptist pastor, church counselor and speaker first introduced his theory that people feel most loved when their partner expresses affection in their predominant language. The problem, he noted, is that we often show love to our S.O. in the way we personally like to receive it even though our preference usually differs from theirs. Thats why figuring out your partners love language is essential. (You can both take the online quiz , if you havent already).