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Posted: 2018-12-25T10:45:47Z | Updated: 2020-12-30T18:44:42Z

New year, new you? Lets be realistic: probably not. A new you is a tall order! But by setting a few smart, specific New Years resolutions , its entirely possible to improve certain areas of your life.

The key is to not be too broad, said Amanda Stemen , the owner of FUNdaMENTALs, a psychotherapy and coaching group in Los Angeles. Your resolutions need to be SMART: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely.

With smart goal setting in mind, we asked our readers to tell us the New Years resolutions they plan to make this year. Below, Stemen and other therapists and life coaches rate how achievable some of those goals are, on a scale of 1 to 5, with 5 the most achievable.

1. I spend a lot of time on social media, especially Instagram. How do I cut back without dealing with FOMO?

How achievable it is: 3/5

The feasibility of this goal depends on the industry this person works in. Many of us have jobs or run businesses in which its necessary to stay connected and active on these networks. In that case, pulling back requires some intention and careful goal planning, said Kate Stoddard , an associate marriage and family therapist at Wellspace SF in Northern California.

If youre someone who likes to post a lot outside of the job, ask yourself why youre posting and what you want from it, she said. If youre someone who likes to scroll endlessly, try making your feed intentional by spending 10 whole seconds on each post and deciding if this is something you want to follow or not.

If your job allows, try taking a full social media break from the sites you find particularly addictive and see how you feel.

From there, decide if social media is something that you want to continue using or not, she said. You get to control how and why you use it, not the other way around.

2. Ive been spending too much money on Postmates and other food delivery apps. Next year, I resolve to use those apps less and cook more.

How achievable it is: 4/5

Theres nothing like a financial strain to initiate some change in our lives, said Ryan Kelly , a psychologist in Charlotte, North Carolina. There are some tangible payouts for this goal, so its likely to stick.

Its likely that the stress relief of saving some money and the pride of cooking healthy meals will increase the likelihood of success here, he said. Make sure you set a specific goal for instance, I used to order four times a week, this year Ill order two times a week and plan for food preparation (e.g., shopping list for simple, appetizing meals).