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Posted: 2020-04-03T15:33:18Z | Updated: 2020-04-03T19:19:19Z

Staying home, as essential as it is right now, is no easy feat. This is true especially for parents, who are now likely juggling even more in their households.

So HuffPost Parents turned to parenting experts to get the tried-and-true tips they give parents, and find out how you can apply them to everyone with whom youre self-isolating, children or more importantly otherwise.

As Dr. Alexandra Hamlet of The Child Mind Institute told HuffPost, These are all life skills, not just corona skills. These are all things that really promote mental healthiness overall and make us more effective.

Here are some basic parenting rules that can and should be extended to the adults in your home, both now and later on.

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Set boundaries

The biggest advice I would give folks right now is establish healthy boundaries with the people you live with. Now more than ever its important to set boundaries around space and time. During this time of social distancing, our homes have now become multipurpose spaces that function as work, school, places of worship, the gym, etc., which can blur the lines between space and time. So, its important that clear boundaries be established around how and when space gets used but also who and when others have access to you. Dr. Tammy Lewis Wilborn , board-certified licensed professional counselor-supervisor and owner of Wilborn Clinical Services in New Orleans

Do the stuff you said youd do. Whats your couple bare minimum? What are your must-haves, agree to them and stick to them. Now is not the time to come up with a long list, though. Catherine Steiner-Adair, clinical psychologist and author of The Big Disconnect

Grant space

People in a closed environment dont grow more close psychologically, they actually grow apart. So were on top of everyone, but give people space because theyre trying to have that space and conversation. Let the kid cry or be upset, let grownups do the same. Dont expect forced family fun for everyone at all times. Dont think that that reflects on you. Its just an innate social need to process. Ashley Merryman , co-author of Nurture Shock and Top Dog

I recommend families spend some one-on-one with each family member to maintain and improve their individual relationships. It is easy to lose the intimacy each of our relationships have during this time. Crafting some alone time with different family members can rebuild those individual relationships. Natasha Daniels, AnxiousToddler.com

Practice mindfulness

The biggest one is to practice being mindful or aware of your inner thoughts, feelings, as well as whats going on in the moment. What mindfulness does is it curbs someones reactivity to their negative emotions and it saves them from getting into arguments, which will make things harder in this already difficult time. Being aware of sadness or anxiety, for example, once you name it, it reduces the strength of that particular emotion. Dr. Alexandra Hamlet, clinical psychologist in the Mood Disorders Center at the Child Mind Institute

Practice deep breathing together. When stress builds, compassion can wane because youre in survival mode and must dial your empathy down. A simple, no-cost way to manage unhealthy emotions is to breathe deeply. Many kids (and grown-ups) inhale too quickly so the breathing doesnt help them calm down. So, have each family member sit back-to-back with another with arms intertwined at the elbows and breathe together. Dr. Michele Borba, educational psychologist and author of UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed In An All-About-Me World

Deep breathing is huge and practicing what is called radical acceptance, which is a skill that basically teaches us that were in a situation right now that we dont have power over that we cant really change. To accept that is to acknowledge that and to try and keep remembering try not to go back into the denial stage of but this isnt fair or but I dont like this. Yes, you dont have to like it, but this is our reality. That can help. Hamlet