Lets be real: Breakups, without a doubt, are one of the worst human experiences you can endure.

It doesnt matter if you didnt see it coming or if you knew the end was inevitable, the agony is real and pervasive. And its not just in your imagination: Research shows that you experience physical pain and health effects when youre heartbroken. Its no wonder coping after a split can be so difficult.

While vices like a pint of ice cream or a night out can ease the pain in the short term, there are a few science-backed tricks to help get over an ex for good. Below are several healthy ways you can boost the healing process, according to research on the subject.

1. Listen to sad music.

Theres a reason Adele is so magnetic after heartbreak. Research shows your brain is drawn to sad music . A 2014 study found that listening to sad music can prompt positive emotions like peacefulness in the listener , which could explain why youre drawn to it after a breakup. Go on, press play .

2. Reflect on your breakup.

Its tempting to file your ex away in a distant corner of your mind where you dont have to think about them, but that attitude may be doing more harm than good.

Research suggests that taking the time to actually think about your split may help you heal from the pain quicker. The study found that those who thoughtfully reflected on the motivation for finally ending the breakup over the course of nine weeks had an easier time accepting the breakup . The person also felt less lonely.

3. Hang with your BFF.

Admit it, your true other half is your best friend and spending some quality time with that person post-split can help you feel better. Research shows that hanging with a close friend can reduce stress in the body , something youre likely feeling right after you end your relationship. Give em a call.

4. Focus on the positives of the split then let yourself grieve.

Did your significant other argue unfairly? Do you miss having single nights out with your friends? Focus on the silver linings of the dissolution. Research shows an optimistic attitude can lead to a higher quality of life .

Of course, you cant be expected to keep an upbeat demeanor all the time. Go ahead and sob it out if you need. Studies also suggest that crying can feel therapeutic and increase your mood after the episode .

5. Consider the rebound.

Perhaps Taylor Swift is on to something with her new beau, Tom Hiddleston. A 2014 empirical study found that individuals who rebounded with someone new after the end of their relationship reported greater well-being than those who stayed single. But theres a catch: The rebounds occurred around seven months after the initial split. Experts say theres no timeline for moving on , so as long as youre seeing someone else and feeling good about that choice, theres nothing wrong with it.

6. Try something new.

Heres a positive if you choose to stay single: Breakups are opportunities for self discovery. A 2010 paper published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin shows the longer youre in a relationship, the more your identity gets intertwined with your partners and corroborating research suggests that a split can shake up a persons sense of self . Enter new activities.

Allow yourself this time to figure out who you are by being adventurous. Sign up for a cooking class , try a different workout routine or book a trip for yourself . All of them have been shown to make you happier and healthier.

7. Give yourself time to process.

Time heals all wounds is an annoying platitude but its a clich for a reason. Ultimately, theres nothing more effective than the passage of time after a breakup.

Research published by the American Psychological Association shows the more space you get from a breakup, the more you heal emotionally . Thats because human beings are incredibly resilient were psychologically wired to move on from romantic relationships.

Our review of the literature suggests we have a mechanism in our brains designed by natural selection to pull us through a very tumultuous time in our lives it suggests people will recover; the pain will go away with time , lead study author Brian Boutwell wrote in the conclusion.

But in the interim, a little Ben and Jerrys also never hurt anyone, either.