Since Taylor Swift is firmly in a post-press, full Beyonc point in her career, she no longer gives interviews, opting instead to fill the pages of magazines as of late with poems, essays and reflections on life completely unfiltered.

Ahead of the pop stars 30th birthday, shes now revealing all the lessons she learned along the way about her biggest fears, family struggles, body acceptance, being canceled and more for Elle Magazine as she seemingly gears up fingers crossed for another era.

A nearly 30, sometimes flirty, but always thriving Swift encourages fans to accept all the messy, non-Instagram-worthy moments in her tips for living a better life.

I learned that disarming someones petty bullying can be as simple as learning to laugh, Swift wrote for the outlet. In my experience, Ive come to see that bullies want to be feared and taken seriously.