3. Soft penises are underrated.

The number one myth of a soft cock is that the man is not feeling desire. This is simply not true. There are many reasons why a man has a limp penis before or during sexual activity that have nothing to do with his desire for you. So please do not take it as an indicator that your lover doesnt want you. Its sad that in our society we have been trained to believe that the sign of desire in a man is an erection. Dump that myth. Pamela Madsen

4. Being a dominatrix isnt just for younger people.

I knew that becoming a dominatrix would truly teach me to fully accept authentic, non-judgmental sexuality. I knew, however, that I struggled with the many negative social influences that cast aside expressive sexuality and especially BDSM as wrong and taboo. I didnt want people to think I was abnormal or strange. At the same time, though, I suspected that the experience could empower me as a woman, and deep down, I somehow understood that it would set me free from my own judgmental perceptions of how women should behave and follow the rules. Sandra LaMorgese, a 60-year-old dominatrix