In her first-ever post to TikTok, Bonnie Lou Gower revealed shed been married at 17, divorced at 25, remarried, had two children then discovered her first husband was a serial killer responsible for the deaths of at least three girls.

People immediately had questions, which Gower has since been answering in a series of posts, How I Was Married To A Serial Killer. Her initial post has been viewed more than 32 million times since June 2, including by the only known surviving victim of Gowers ex-husband, who has also been using TikTok to chronicle her ongoing struggle to heal from the trauma of being abducted at age 15.

Kara Robinson Chamberlain, now 37, told HuffPost she reached out to Gower, who responded with kindness and compassion. And, she said, its perhaps unsurprising that people with ties to notorious true crime cases are using social media to tell their stories on their own terms and connect with each other.