You and your siblings may have grown up in the same house and shared the same parent or parents, but that doesnt mean you experienced those first chapters of life in the same way.

Maybe you were close when you were little but drifted apart as you got older ; maybe you were sworn enemies when you were kids but now youre tighter than ever or somewhere in between. Regardless of how well you think you know each other, theres a good chance youve only begun to scratch the surface.

Weve compiled 35 conversation-starting questions along with help from psychologists Rebecca Leslie and Erlanger Turner and therapist Nicole O-Pries that can help deepen the bond you share with your siblings.

Ask your brother or sister some of these during your next phone call or family visit. You might be surprised by their answers.