It would be nice if people would filter the things they say to new parents, leaving out any comments that might not be received as helpful or reassuring. Unfortunately, plenty of folks both those who have kids and those that dont see a vulnerable new parent as an open invitation to air their own grievances, insecurities or anxieties. Whether their issues are with their own parents, their own children or some kind of internal conflict, toxic comments generally reveal more about the speaker than the person theyre addressing.

If youre new to parenthood and feel the sting of a thoughtless comment from a supposed well-wisher, rest assured that youre not alone. When we asked the HuffPost Parents Facebook community what toxic comments theyd received as new parents, we were inundated with responses. Many are veiled with a guise of helpfulness or even empathy, while others are downright nonsensical. Here are some of the most horribly memorable things people heard as the adjusted to the demands of parenthood.