People who practice polyamory understand the worlds curiosity: Loving more than one person at one time isnt entirely conventional. Most people have a lot of questions about what its like.

Still, there are more tactful ways to learn about someones personal life, especially if youre asking questions about what happens in the bedroom.

Below, polyamorous men and women share 12 questions they get asked all too often.

1. Isnt that sort of like cheating?

More than any other question, this one makes laugh because polyamory is actually the opposite of cheating. The only thing we have in common with cheaters is the capacity to love more than one person at a time, but by definition, polyamory is about informed consent with everyone involved. The fundamental premise of our lifestyle is honesty, communication and decidedly not sneaking around and lying to people you love! KamalaDevi McClure , whos been in an open marriage with her husband Michael for 16 years. McClure been with her girlfriend Roxanne for seven years.