7 Thoughts on Our Worldwide Midlife Crisis

As I reflect on the recent 4th of July celebration in the US, I started thinking about all our founding fathers sacrificed to help create a new world and ensure its safety. This led to more thinking about our humanity, which led to more thinking.

It seems to me no matter your age, we all appear to be part of a worldwide midlife crisis.

Every day, I study the behavior of individuals and companies, and its a bit head scratching at what weas a societyhave become.

Of course, it wont surprise most; weve collectively dragged each other well below mediocrity in most aspects related to quality, service, and respect. I cant help but think a temporarily cheated destiny wont let us get away scot-free with this sustained behavior.

We can kibitz about how technology has made us less interactive or perpetually distracted. But, if you closely examine behavior on a grander scale, of both individuals and companies, youll notice the bruises run much deeper.

While Im still on the subject of things that irritate me, Id also like to take a moment to apologize to those individuals ages (roughly) twenty-two to thirty-six for taking one on the chin. As if your generation alone could put us in this crisis is absurd.

While many leaders in my and my fathers generations would like you to believe were here because of you, thats simply not true. These claims tend to be accompanied by an unwillingness to look ourselves in the mirror for fear of what we might see. We both know we didnt suddenly wake up in this 2017 because you came out of the womb with a cell phone in your hand.

I think the world still has and needs more leaders who are willing to right us again. To do that, we need to understand where we are as a society and one by one reverse this course before destiny wakes up.

Entitlement vs. Effort

Weve become soft. Those hard-working generations understood there were no shortcuts to reward. This concept must be lost somewhere in the rooms filled with participation awards. It would be easier to find it in the much smaller rooms with achievement awards.

Quick vs. Quality

You might have guessed Id have said quantity, but that would be too good for us right now. I can understand sacrificing quality for quantity in some instances, but we seem to be sacrificing quality and quantity for quick trials we throw away. We start services, products, and companies and ditch them when we dont make progress fast enough. Lack of patience and effort leads to this line of thinking.

Short Views vs. Grand Vision

We dont fulfill the vastness of our visions for a few reasons. First, we dont take the time to consider the grand vision because were distracted by the worlds false, by-the-minute emergencies. Toss in an unwillingness to work hard to achieve the vision and lack of patience required to muscle through the challenges and, hey presto, there it is.

Dismissal vs. Investment

Investing time, energy, and resources seems to be taboo. Most people would rather quit and most companies would rather quit their people than invest time to work with them, train them, and ensure they realize their grand vision. Today, companies fold quickly, fire employees quickly, and simply dismiss anything not working.

Avoidance vs. Confrontation

How often do you remain silent than speak to your spouse, family member, friend, boss, or coworker regarding something troubling? When did we stop sharing feedback with each other? Was it when we started doling out participation awards? Speaking of

Participation Awards vs. Higher Standard

Instead of working with people to help them achieve a higher standard, we offer them support and gratitude for showing up. I am all for encouragement and appreciation, but were doing ourselves no favors by bringing the bottom to the middle and the top to the middle. Pretty soon, well be so heavy well collectively fall to the bottom.

Convenience vs. Hard Work

I remember twenty years ago when companies started casual payday Fridays, which turned into casual (every) Fridays. Then they offered casual dress, which turned into jeans and shorts. This was followed by foosball table breaks and wheres my free lunch on the days Im not working from home? Im all for modernizing, but these structures are also an enhancer to the convenience mentality run amok.

Before we can change, we need to know the issues. Lets consider this post a rare opinion piece from me. I know my followers are smart enough to know the first steps they need to take to become leaders who can get us back on the right track!

About the Author

Andrew LaCivita is the Founder & Chief Executive of milewalk and the milewalk Academy . As an internationally recognized executive recruiter, award-winning author, speaker, and trainer, Andrew has dedicated his career to helping people and companies realize their potential. He frequently serves as a trusted media resource and is the author of Interview Intervention, Out of Reach but in Sight, and The Hiring Prophecies (the eLit Gold Award Winner for Best Business/Careers/Sales Book for 2016).

Andrews passion is serving as a coach and trainer via his top 5 Careers Blog, Tips for Work and Life , and his online training site, the milewalk Academy . On a daily basis, he circulates his Todays Line to Live By , which is a self-developed inspirational quote. You can find these daily dispatches of inspiration on his blog and social media platform.

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