Ashley Madison and the Hypocrisy of Male Internet Privacy Activists

The thing about the Ashley Madison leak that truly fascinates me is the hypocrisy of internet privacy activists, whom are predominantly male.

No, I don't think it's necessarily fair to judge every person who has "cheated" on their spouse or with someone who is married. People engage in infidelity for a lot of reasons. There are trapped relationships, repressed sexualities and gender identities, abusive marriages, etc. I get that "cheating" isn't always black-and-white and that people have a right to privacy.

But what blows me away every time some internet privacy incident comes up is that so many of the same people who rant and rave about government surveillance or compromised private information or unauthorized data collection... are the same folks who will gladly share a nude picture of a woman whose computer or device has been hacked.

These are the same people who view celebrity women as commercial products and thus, not entitled to any privacy.

These are the same people who, because of whatever bullshit "friendzone" grudge they hold against women, seem to gleefully--even obsessively--post stories, anecdotes, videos or whatever about women who have been caught cheating.

And not because of some moral crusade against infidelity but because they feel the need to control, in however small a way, women's sexuality. If they're not getting any, neither should women.

If they feel they have been denied sex by the women of the world (apparently a collective), they'll go out of their way to publicly humiliate women in compromising situations.

Can women be cheating assholes or abusive or simply awful human beings? Of course. Every rational adult knows this.

But these angry, insecure men who spend their waking hours glued to Reddit and 4chan aren't rational. They don't view women as having the potential to be assholes because they're human beings; they view a woman as an asshole because to them, she's a product who is expected to perform to their liking. A robot devoid of character and personality, dreams and nightmares, needs and wants.

This is about a vicious sense of entitlement to women's minds and bodies by a large population who wield enormous influence over the primary means of communication among human beings.

It's not just about hacking a nude photo or revenge porn or the unceasing stream of harassment women receive online.

It's also about enabling a culture that communicates to men that it's perfectly fine to assault, rape, and kill women for not giving you what you want.

This whole Ashley Madison fiasco is simply another illustration of male entitlement and rage over the loss of that entitlement.

So, yes... while it's a bummer to see privacy violated, I'm not exactly inspired to "join the cause".

Shoot me an e-mail when your ethics are consistent and don't blatantly and violently discriminate against women.