Dating in a Trump World: One Year Later

I remember exactly where I was one year ago today.

It was the election-of-all elections, and Hillary Clinton was expected to win and become the first female president of the United States.

I was glued to the television while watching the election results. In my hand, as I sat solo in my family room, was my iPhone. In a digital election world, like others, I was busy texting election results with my friends.

As the night went on, many of us were stunned as the electoral college results came in. With Florida and Ohio in the Trump camp, shock waves hit across the country and throughout the world.

None of us were prepared for the outcome.

Some were thrilled with the news of Donald Trump becoming the next president, while others literally cried and started to worry about our country.

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How this relates to dating is huge.

As a dating and relationship coach, the biggest dating divide Ive ever experienced in history has been this past election, along with the year that has passed since election day.

Mashable reports that a single man on Tinder has been using a new technique which he calls Trumping to reject dates hes not interested in anymore. Dan, the Trumping guy, sends a message to his matches saying he voted for Trump, instead of telling them he isnt interested, or taking the cowards way out of ghosting, which has plagued over 90% of millennials.

Meanwhile, conservatives are still bashing Clinton and liberals dont want to date Trump supporters. Being on opposite ends of the political spectrum is a passion that just isnt sexy in Trumps America.

Other data shows existing relationships became strained with the election results. I predicted in a HuffPost article, many relationships would end between Inaguration Day and Valentines Day. I now know this to be a fact.

The truth is, its not about being liberal or conservative. Its not even about who one voted for, as much as its about values. Values are the core of what makes a couple click and what helps them stick together during the inevitable bumps on the road.

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Whether its family values or walls being built, singles have a lot to say these days, with politics topping the list of deal-breakers.

While I think things have calmed down a bit, with singles and couples agreeing to disagree, its been a challenging time for the love world.

Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropoligist and chief science officer at Match agrees and tells me, Maybe couples should have a little system of a time out, where one person says one thing.

An adult time-out. Maybe that will ease the tension of dating in a Trump world. Heres how it works.

He gets two minutes to say that one thing and then the other person gets two minutes to say theirs, explained Fisher. Then they go into the bedroom and dont talk about it, or they go and play a game, or do something to change the brain.

Fisher believes something as simple as taking a bike ride will bump up the dopamine system and will reduce the pain in your relationship.

From my view, people are definitely more passionate about their political views these days. Watching the news or scrolling through tweets has given us a 24-hour reality show. Having a voice on social media is now a license to post public rants in one direction or another, resulting in the deterioation of many friendships.

How does this relate to love one year later?

For me, Ive been watching the news in a more magnified way and I know others feel the same. As a dating coach, I encourage political conversations to be brought to the front in a kind manner, without people attacking each other.

Its time to return to the time where a lively debate made an interesting topic for a date.

Lets not bring war into the bedroom.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam.

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Julie Spira is Americas Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. Shes the CEO and founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs.