Donald Trump, collusion and icebergs

I woke this morning 7.00 am UK time to my radio alarm blaring out the accusations of some women against Donald Trump . And so I write:

It is with intrigue and not a little trepidation, that us Brits are watching events play out across the pond. With increasing concern I have watched a potentially dangerous man, as far as women and many minority groups go, move nearer to one of the most powerful position in the world.

Ice bergs keep 90% of their mass underwater. Are we only seeing the tip of a scary iceberg when it comes to Mr Trump?

I am an ambassador for the British charity Restored, the aim of which is to raise awareness through education and training of all issues relating to domestic abuse. The ultimate aim is to bring an end to violence against women. This is a world-wide problem ranging from child brides, female genital mutilation, forced prostitution, rape as a weapon of war and domestic abuse to name a few.

For the last 16 years I have worked as a therapist, counselling women from all walks of life. They have told me their stories of violence; fractured eye sockets, being dragged down the stairs by their hair, or even thrown. To the more subtle methods of power and control: being told what they can wear, who they can spend time with, often separating them from family and friends. And I am not even mentioning the issues for children who witness it. Generations of boys and girls who believe that is okay for women to be hurt.

These women dont just come from uneducated poor areas of society, but from wealthy families with men in respected positions of power.

As a mother of four children I have a vested interest in seeing that society changes its view, that men respect and honour women and visa versa.

So Mr Trump, who is he really? I have to say I do not know. But what I do know is that powerful men need to be accountable for their behaviour to people who are not afraid to challenge them. There have been too many situations whereby abuse is left to run unchecked. We only have to look in our own back yard at, say Jimmy Saville... Collusion with the abuser, for fear of falling out with someone powerful is all too prevalent. My questions are these?

Who is Donald Trump accountable to, who is his confessor. Who is it that colludes with his demeaning behaviour towards women?

My concern is this: violence, harm, suppression, the crushing of a persons will and personality, usually goes on behind closed doors. When we can see less than positive behaviour in the public eye we can safely assume its worse back home...and now the plot is thickening with more accusations. Who knows the truth?

So Mr Trump in the words of Solotan Olatunbosun:

Watch your Thoughts, they become Words! Watch your Words, they become Actions! Watch your Actions, they become Habits! Watch your Habits, they become Character! Watch your CHARACTER! ..It becomes your DESTINY! ! ! And whenever you give your word, say the truth. solotan Olatunbosun

Susie is a writer and coach. She leads stay the path coaching and is a regular contributor to glassheel . Passionate about bringing an end to violence against women she is ambassador for Restored